from now on

What matters to you the most from now on? 

The moment is now. At this moment you may have many different feelings and emotions or thoughts that vary and are diverse. Also, it might look complex, complicated, or simply look too much. Whatever it is, how many there are, I have lots of questions! Not questioning you, questions to ask from you.

Not questioning you

Questions to ask you

No worries, it is not going to apply more complexity to your life and doesn’t either make things more complicated. It’s a bolt of shooting lightning without a scary sound. To make things clear in a dark room a flash of light is enough: that's your imagination supported by a top-notch supercomputer: Your brain will capture a sharp picture.

I call it “the treasure map”

What does treasure mean to you? Even if you are a pirate, I guess it’s something more valuable than gold. Although gold is precious, we need more valuable things as a side dish or dessert. Have you ever preferred a restaurant for the sake of dessert? Try it, it’s a lot of fun to plan and weirdly make a decision.

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Mind Scarecrows:
 Fight or Fright?

If you wake up with stress & anxiety, it seems that you might have seen a nightmare about “Mind Scarecrows”; Ugly, terrifying scarecrows built by yourself mentally. You might have built that scarecrow in your mind to get rid of an outrageous, outer pest attacking you! Believe it or not, looking at your self-made scarecrow will be scary for you!This is like reading the inferno & purgatory part of Dante’s “Divine Comedy”. It is interesting to know that Dante named his work ”Comedia” which means comedy in Tuscan back in 1472 & 103 years later, Giovanni Boccaccio added the word “Divina” (Divine) before Comedy. Thus, the Mind Scarecrows are like passing through the inferno & purgatory which is comical yet real.The possibility is that you might pass by “Mind Scarecrows” of others which seems Paradiso to you while they built it of panic; by approaching the scarecrow through their point of view, you might be terrified as much as they are. Does this bring you to the case of a dilemma: Fight or Fright?Now imagine passing by your “Mind Scarecrow” without paying much attention to it; instead of overthinking, you create a distraction for yourself not to face the fear; it’s like blowing a whistle and looking at the sky while passing the straddling scarecrow in a material world when you are just a child. This is exactly similar to pulling a blanket over your face in the wake of darkness.Encountering your scarecrows in your mind looks like being frightened but you can fight your overthinking and panics through fighting; the correlation between adulthood & youthness happens here: it is like passing a material scarecrow. One should be aware of the fact that distortion cannot save you from stress, anxiety & wasting your energy.The point of fighting your “Mind Scarecrows” is to pass your scarecrows while whistling or chanting to overcome your fears & continue your path in life. Sometimes overtaking a scarecrow is as easy as feeding your brain a pie!

Giraffe Effect

Close your eyes and think you became a giraffe! It could be regarded as an illusion & may be terrifying to you. But this article has a different story to tell…

When you are holding a mobile phone in your hand passing by the library or bookstore shelves to feed your soul from the ambiance you are exposed to for the sake of updating your mind OS, there are ways to treat yourself & create food for your thoughts: Either you will be looking for the best-sellers in the world, or you have already found and selected the book you are looking for on Good Reads app or other sources such as the New York Times, and all you need to do is just taking it off the shelf; or perhaps you are one of those book-wormers who find yourself surrounded by a volume of books on self-improvement, self-knowledge, personal development, or those that are the common denominators of sociology, anthropology, and psychology; Then it is you in the center of this vast market looking for a needle in the haystack.

 In this seemingly complicated situation, it may seem very difficult for you to choose, and you might return home like a tired hunter who has not succeeded in all his pursuits with your mental hunger’s persistence and a heavy conscience telling you non-stop: “I ain’t able to choose even one bloody book! “. You look like a shark with a bunch of fish in front of him, saying to himself: “What a fat and delicious bite!”; He opens his mouth and rushes towards the fish, but couldn’t even catch one! The shark stays hungry because he does not focus on his target, & the delicious, fat bites of fish dance in front of its eyes in a rhythmic way disappearing from his eyes.The story of sinking into the heart of a lump sum of books can happen to all of us: either we are looking for great writers or trends or looking for books having received more stars in Goodreads. 

However, you are the same hungry shark who is looking for fish and is a hero in his mind in the circle of life but is the one who is overwhelmed by the secrets of nature.You must remember that in the old science fiction stories, future human beings were always imagined differently; A form beyond the present, thousands of whom passing by us every day. In fact, because of the nature of the imagination, future human beings take the form of extraterrestrials or appear so thoughtful that their heads look larger-than-expected and their arms and legs become thinner and tinier.The purpose of this preface is to challenge your mind as a reader. 

To attach the hook to what is the basis of this article: The binary truth occurring in business or other fields of life: either having your head is in the clouds or not, be a dreamer or a realist, and finally, ride the horse of fantasy or roar your wild horse on the ground; you are either told to “Dream Big” and that give wings to your mind (which keeps your up in the clouds) or live a normal human life, do not ignore reality and have your feet on the ground.

The contradiction between these two approaches is where our minds fell into doubt: either be a dreamer and have your head in the clouds or be realistic and have your feet on the ground. This article aims to combine both methods and is an index of people who choose the third way and become “realistic dreamers”; This is the “Giraffe Effect” in a nutshell. 
Let’s go back to the example of future people: Instead of big heads and thin arms and legs, future humans can look like giraffes: a giraffe with a long neck, a head in the sky, and feet on the ground. Perhaps this is the case with the song “I want it all” by Queen Rock band: “I WANT IT ALL & I WANT IT NOW!”. 

This might seem a mission impossible, but I truly think the “Giraffe Effect” is what makes it easier for all of us to live in these days. The concept of comfort & easiness is different for everyone, but in my opinion, in any place, time, or circumstance, the “Giraffe Effect” is the safest passage to cross this period of purgatory in time.These words may seem like a comic strip for adults. But the fact is with your head in the clouds, you will work and live with a steam-less, cool brain and mind. 
The problem these days is the heat-up of our brains. 
When you are like a giraffe with a long neck, the blood reaches your brain smoother & more slowly; thus, it gets cooler along the way and you feel calmer & more relaxed! The point of this parable is that you have the right to live a calmer life with a cooler brain; one that is free of stress and nervousness.Let’s turn the page & look at the story from another angle: Traveling up high physically requires a vehicle such as a balloon or an airplane. 

Here, we are dealing with balloons. Although it takes an expert to fly the balloon, and you practically have to trust him with the confidence that is the default of getting on a flight, things could get out of hand & control: If a puncture happens to the balloon all at once, the only thing that will save your life is the “Giraffe Effect”. Here, having “feet on the ground” is an unrealistic concept; You are in the air and you have no place to lean on except the base and body of the balloon! Supposedly being a giraffe, there is no escape from this crisis!

 A question for you: what is the use of being a giraffe? The answer is simple: only a giraffe can save a punctured balloon from falling: by blowing in the balloon hole!Nowadays, we have no choice but to be the giraffes of our lives; “Realistic Dreamers” who fight for survival, being alive, and progress via blowing to the punctured balloon of life!